How to leave work at work

Many leaders talk about their work life balance.

Working late and taking work home, in terms of stress, rumination, problems and customer experiences (patient/client/student etc...).

In this article we will share a tool that helps high pressure workers to leave work at work.

The Psychology of Changing Place and State.

Humans evolved from tribal lifestyles into what are now highly complex social, technological and performance environments. The level of pressure and complexity common to public service staff is a lunar leap from the tribesmen and women we were,

despite being only a baby step back in the biological evolution of our species.

Whilst our worlds have exploded in complexity and responsibility, our base biology and psychology is in many ways are much the same as our tribal ancestors. We have been successful in exploiting our psychological resources in creating the world we now occupy.

It is important to pause and think about what life was like for humans pre industrialisation and even pre agriculture. The idea that our brains would be juggling thousands of tasks a day, interacting over digital media, making 100s of complex decisions an hour and all of this embedded in a team of individuals all with similar workloads—it would have been beyond imagination. Yet this is how we live and it is normal for many of you.

But this is not our entire life. In between these 8–12 hour shifts, we are meant to de-role and return to our lives where we live again like our ancestors—our small tribes (families and friends), with household tasks and social hobbies.

On a rapid daily cycle we are tasked with picking up this complex identity and then putting it down and being emotionally, socially and perhaps romantically, available.

Needless to say, this is a challenge and one that we did not really evolve well for.

We are better equipped to hold stress, ruminate about the day and to take the tension home and release it there at the distress of our tribe, or hold it in until we become ill or isolated, or both.

Punctuating work and home

There is much to be considered about work stress and approach,

addressed in this book. Here I want to introduce a task that helps us to drop work and to become available for our lives outside of work. A task I have taught 100s of professionals and shared with 1,000s of NHS staff via online videos etc.

A debrief.

This is a task that supports us to Psychologically draw a line between work and home—and is surprisingly powerful. I have worked with many terminally ill young men in my NHS role and found this an essential part of my own role, to enable me to arrive

home without carrying these experiences. It was taught to me as a trainee clinician and now I present it to you:

The debrief task

1. When work is over, create a symbolic exercise that signals